It Feels Like They Always Ask Too Much. My ex boyfriend left me because I was depressed all the time. Now I am devastated, saddened and hurt by the fact my beautiful girlfriend (now ex) is so unwell and theres nothing that I can really do, except offer my support and love. I feel you. Her issues didnt matter to me as she is a very good person, but I didnt see the whole picture. I feel really lost. If she needs the ex in her life she doesnt need you, she just wants you. I also have depression. The medications side effect is sex blocking, also with her off alcohol her mind cant deal with emotions as other people, so basicly we had like 3 times sex this year. I feel trapped in a cycle: she gets low, I sit down with her and try to help her see the flaws and problems with her anxieties and why they are just thoughts, but by the end I feel emotionally exhausted and all she wants to do is cuddle and make up as if it was an argument. Shes most likely cheating already, I mean think about their history as if the ex hasnt tried to make a move on her. Hi everyone Sorry to say this but its just my own opinion. "Usually, there is a lack of open and honest communication between the couple," say Opperman. She posts lots of hurtful things on her networks, she gets only and doesnt talk to me, shes alway leaving to something, she doesnt seem to care about things Ive got to say, shes no longer responsive or interested and shes been pretending fun, she doesnt seem to care at all anymore, and when I openly say how this has been hurting me and how things changed drastically, she always blames her condition, that she is really depressed and in mood swings, but she no longer let me be closer, she no longer wants to talk. She likes me to stay home with here all the time. It's not fun for either party, and it's definitely a sign that things aren't entirely healthy. Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. were so messed up its insane. Let she feels that you are proud of her. Even she could not continue her studies and quit her studies.Its all because of she loves me to core and missing me much! Dear M, If you would like to find a mental health professional for your girlfriend, you can start finding therapists in your area by entering your city or ZIP code into the search field on this page: https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. Medically reviewed by Jennifer Litner, PhD, LMFT, CST By Ash Fisher on June 10, 2021. If you have depression or anxiety its because you know deep in your soul that you arent on the right path or living up to your potential. She is a no bullshit chick that has always been completely honest with me about everything and this is no exception. See what I mean? The specific mention of medication but not therapy makes me wonder whether your girlfriend is in therapy. She has to take control of her own mind if she ever wants to get better. And before you know it has someone paying for half or all of her bills. I envy all your girlfriends, because you acknoleged their pain.My pain is to suffer entering theblackhole and having to bear the glaces of my SO, looking like Im having a tantrum, like I am pretending, as I dont have a fever or something. Tomorrow my lady and I would be ten months not quite a year, but things have switched off lately. We've been together for about a year now. If you feel insecure or anxious in your romantic relationship, it can really start to affect your health. If the answer is yes, talk with your partner ASAP. And at the current time, I feel stretched thin with everything going around me since everyone needs me there for them, along with being there for myself. I dont know what to do, I want to go out and do stuff, cant be potato couch forever. You're so shallow. In cases of chronic depression, it is very common for partners to begin to feel more like caretakers than anything else. I missed her, but she pushed me away and i got fed up from this. There is so many thoughts and circumstances for a girl. I need to know, I was engaged to get married to her but we called it off. thanks for everyone comments! It just makes me feel worse, plus medication takes 63-64 days to actually kick in. She is quiet, shy, passive/aggressive yet bubbly she would do anything and everything instantaneously for me, great girl! Those are the moments you should be focusing on, that is the person that youre in a relationship with. The more. (All is Hell) Official HD video of Dragging Me Down. It sounds like you have been a tremendous source of love, strength, and support for your girlfriend in her battle with depression. Youve been shouldering a significant burden on your own for years; it sounds like you are ready to let someone help you carry the load. Therapy and meds nothing will work. I thought she was the woman of my life, that I would do anything for her and I would but she simply doesnt want. but she made fun of me she said she wasnt going to read this BS. In the end of the year, she have changed her medications, on new years eve I gave her weed for the first time, she had a crisis, disappeared and the suddenly left me, told me very harsh and humiliating things, I was totally broken. She experienced child sexual trauma and suffers from depression and ptsd. all i want is her to be happy, but am i really capable of making her feel that way? (All is Hell) My Friend Is Draining Me! Psychiatrists are the experts in the medical treatment of depression, and they will be able to provide better care than a general practitioner. She felt distanced by me, but in no way did i feel any different toward her. I always stopped everything to help her, to stay hours remind her how she is incredible. I didt wanted help, I didnt wanted to tell people how sad I am (and that I dont know why) to anyone. What's my issue, and what steps can or should I take that would help both her and me? Im on anti depressants myself but evidently those are for the weak that cant handle reality from her pointof view. Do you guys fight all the time? Ive got a life, I want to be happy, to love, I am strong, I am bold, and I cant seem like to help her anymore, she doesnt want to, shes just getting away from me, Im losing her. This is verbatim my situation. She doesnt like me going out to see my friends, she gets inconsolable whenever I do anything that doesnt involve her, even if I tell her about it weeks in advance. 2. Its a selfish decision either way. See what I. Im so tired now and giving her space and to myself too while figuring what I should do, to stay or leave? Lately, Ive been becoming stronger, Ive finished my graduation, am starting to work by myself. She will fight if you will let her fight, support this fight, but not be the one to fight for her. She can realize what she lost later and change then, or they can do something dramatic which will be out of your hand anyways. Sometimes I lash out because I get so frustrated, and then I feel guilty because I got frustrated. It is very sad when a very good man like me just happens to have very bad luck with women when i really shouldnt at all. When that happens, it may be time for some serious reflection. Maybe she doesnt want to tell you how much she wants you to be with her because she doesnt want to appear needy. The yoyo effect lasts only so long and some people need to realize if people wont do something to help themselves there is nothing in this world you can do about it. and the thing with sex: if you are curious and want to understand: Breaking up is my last option but a considerable option because the fact that she is just not paying attention to me, everything is about her and her thoughts only. i dont know what to do. My boyfriend is like this, before I met him I was very depressed, self harmed, tried taking my own life but one day I met him I felt instantly happy I never felt this, however he left me for his ex girlfriend and I felt hopeless again. If you are tired or stressed I cant do sex. She wont tell me whats going on. We kept going on, and little by little she started becoming more and more away from me. She didnt want to go to my graduation. Dealing with a depressed girl isnt easy and there some moments of greatness and when it happens I take full advantage of it. Im not sure whats going on but I let her know constructively that I considered leaving her I know its harsh but it was a reality check. By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. But, I love her and I want to support her I dont want to turn my back on her. I really wish GoodTherapy.org would have some people, professionals or people who had past experiences in line with all the above comments and have them offer some advice and hope for everyone here. I have a problem and cant find anyone to tell Found that website and the posts here are very similar to mine. Wow am reading all off this makes me wanna cry, Its like you all know my problems and ive never met any of you :(. It drove me to breakdown myself. All efforts made on my part were in vain. we took a break for a day, then got back together. Long distance relationships where you rarely/never meet in person are not really the same thing. Help me drag the camping gear down the hill. As men we dont have an option. It would be way worse, and if you leave, then the relationship wouldnt be as big of a crutch and she and you can move on and grow. Most of you experienced it yourselves unless you are blessed with incredible good looks or a family wealth. You are an enabler when you take on others problems to the point where they become your own. I like my lectures because I feel like I have room to breathe since there is no internet connection in the lecture theaters. Two nights ago after a weekend of not really talking that much as she was very down and I was super busy with work, we spoke on the phone and she told me she needed to be alone and deal with this, because her depression was the worst its ever been. She might even need help to physically move some of the bigger items out (like a couch). I feel for all of you guys! Totally agree with your comment. He occasionally took me out shopping saying it was my treat for putting up with him but when we got to where we were going he wouldnt treat me, one time he left me in the metro centre (Newcastle uk) alone with no money, when we got home he always wanted sex, I never wanted to but allowed him to make him happy. She hates it when I get an attitude then why does she make me get into this attitude? We r loving since 5-6 years! It works for me (I dont really have a hobby Im just at school all the time). but in the end in realtionships, its about being happy. Good Luck!! We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Mountain Time, and our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext 3. I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. Wow. Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. Medication treats symptoms, but it doesnt address all of the problems that often underlie depression. 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