(That can provide the same amount of nutrition). I do not sleep in the bed because of itching smell and the constant licking. Ive yet to see a site that discusses the possibility that dog fanatics people who worship their pets as baby humans, rather than those who enjoy their dogs as pets may have issues, and that those issues are health neither for pets, their owners, or their real-world relationships. I absolutely LOATHE our dog. Theyre fed custom-cooked food using expensive whole meat. Hes a shnoodle. They should not be in bed with you they should not be on furniture they should not be allowed near small children. I am so sorry that so many are having a terrible time with their pets and partners. What should I do? Eventually i was allowed in the bed, but the dogs keep jumping on and off from the bed and they shed hair EVERYWHERE. I train, strictly, on one commanded at a time, and while the other things are happening I just say no, and take it away. People dont stick their noses up or will leave if their partner makes a big emotional sacrifice for you. I would never ask my partner to sacrifice something incredibly important to them. I also told him that we are never close like we used to be, that instead of reaching for me, you reach for the dog. We now have a 2 month old baby and as you could figure, I am extremely busy with him. :(. After all, when on walks the dogs sniff at everything and my wife cuddles her dogs and doesnt always wash her hands or face afterwards. I love dogs but not wolves. Especially my husband, he is notorious for leaving clothes thrown on floor, leaving tools out over the place, NO NO NO no more PETS! 1. I havent mentioned amy of this to him because i think it sounds petty. It is a total pain follows him everywhere like a bad smell and really I. Here its totally different.here i have rules,my dog is not allowed in etc etcim lost.what am i supposed to do? Ive actually stopped sleeping in the same bed because Fido hogs up so much of the bed that I cant ever get comfortable, so Im now sleeping in the 2nd bedroom while my boyfriend and the dog sleep together! So 4 years in we have 1 dog so neurotic i wimpers and is stuck to her heel the whole time shes home, it has to sleep under the bed she would have it on the bed if i didnt make a stand, it sits on her whenever she sits. let me tell you it is a massive pet peeve of mine when people want to compare a human baby to that of an animal. I moved about 12 hours away for my boyfriend, my dog is extremely clingy he cries when he is away from me for a second i cant even go to the bathroom without him crying to come in he wakes up in the middle of the night and just starts barking trust me of course this drives my boyfriend insane it is also very hard to teach my dog not to do certain things because he is deaf now us just moving in together this obviously became a problem very quickly my boyfriend also does not think dogs should be in the kitchen well my dog went in the kitchen we got into a huge fight over this i love my dog very much!! So stupid. Well, its been a few weeks now and his ass hasnt calmed down. That means, they just have to bark and misbehave and she will cave! Although, my pets were always part of my family, loved and cared for, but never to the point they usurped a human member of my family. Tell him that you agree with his decision and ask for another chance. Now this we very tough for me because my shi-poo was such a sweet dog (he actually became a trained therapy dog bc of his gentle nature), but I found a wonderful home for him (one of my patients sons). I have a labra-doodle and have always had an inside dog. My counselor believed it had to do with him having trust issues many years before I came along. Professional training has to happen and if you dont have the money for it dont consider getting a pet with considering the likely hood youll find a significant other one day who might not like pets or want that responsibility even if he or she can tolerate them. Shes hard working, handles the house, the kids, the works. The dog is constantly shoved down my throat, we cannot go anywhere with out the dog, and cannot plan a vacation or anything else that does not allow pets, his whole world is around that dog. I strongly recommend reading the following article. I cant complain about her because everyone that sees her loves her. i feel so hurt when this happens that this animal is more respected than i am. Im tired of fighting over her. Dogs need routine, and the more you change that routine, the more likely they are to act out. But NOW hes saying he doesnt want her in the room at all. I just wish hed either help or give her to his mom. With the new baby I am worried about when he starts crawling, well have to keep the dog kenneled all the time. None of the begging nonsense excessive unnecessary barking etcfast forward. Should he hit the puppy? I asked my husband if hes willing to put her dog bed out of the bedroom and he didnt like the idea I feel he puts the dog before me and he even willing for me to separate from him than to compromise. Jake- I have been an asthmatic all my life and have many medications because of it. Omg I was so scared and I thought I was going to loose him! So then I bought baby gates and pads to block off a big area and she could use the pads. They follow me every where and never leave my side. I realize this is mental abuse, but hes very good at it, and, theres really nothing I can do, even though its all just to control me. I have to lint roll my entire outfit before I leave for work in the morning when i stay at his house. Walking, playing, feeding, etc and I clean more than he does for the fact that animals shed and I feel it is necessary to accommodate. This is where the problem comes in, his Godchild got him a puppy for his birthday, his birthday was 2 months ago but he got the gift today. That was a great idea thanks and my husband and I bedroom are at peace again. Or, as suggested, get a king sized bed that can accommodate you both and the fur baby. Oh hell no. My husband rarely grooms the cat so it vomits frequently around the house. So, its better if you can enlist the help of a dog trainer. He tells me off for that apparently, it is not in his nature to bite and he has been trained since a puppy for anyone to touch him during mealtime. I know he made a commitment to the dog, but I guess I thought I was the more important one and when you are giving your dogs 4 different pills and a few injections of stuff to keep him healthy, happy and strong but he is 16 years old, its almost as if he never wants his dog to die. Because she is his mothers dog, his guilt overrides things like discipline. Also, on the rare occasion he stays at my place, he has to leave really early in the morning to go home and take the dog out (i live in SF and we both have apartments with no yard). I always treat both dogs equally, feed them, let them out, walk them, take them for a ride, play with them both at the same times. She was the alpha over him. Besides his being fanatical about the dog, he was very negative towards me (pointing out my flaws, blaming me for things I didnt do, putting me down, embarrassing me in public) because he was unable to control me. i just cannot see how i will be happy if we all live together. Except I had the Siberian Husky, who showers regularly and smell great. I believe shes jealous but he doesnt seem to see it. Just because you want to be a furry freak, doesnt mean everyone else should applaud you for it. The dog is the sweetest, smartest dog Ive ever had. He got a Yorkie I didnt want. i said look ive tried to learn to live with him..im on edge constantly from watching him like a hawk around the baby..ive exhausted myself trying to get you to see that im not just being mean ..im concerned for my baby and for the baby on the way there is no way in hell i can deal with a newborn and that dog..but all that aside i just wanted to sleep without him keeping me up all night for once and cuddle my husbandhe said well go lay down where you can sleep then babei was floored..basically hes saying my concerns and needs and wants are not important at all to him..and im second to his dogi got upset and cried and said some things i didnt mean..but hell who wouldnt at that point.he looked at me hateful as could be with the dog laid in my spot all up on his side and said if you dont wana sleep with the dog then get the hell out of the roomwhat do i even say or do anymore? If my husband uses a softer tone of voice the dog us obediant. The dog has to constantly be in his lap, and he is always calling for it. Those people with like, 4 German Shephards and a few cats too. I was loving. WHAT IN THE WORLD DOES THAT MEAN! If they get some exercise, good food and some attention when others ate here, they will be fine on their own for awhile. Then he told me that he didnt like my dog sleeping in the bed. Educate yourself about puppy blues: For that, we have an extensive guide written by a veterinarian Dr. Pavithra and here is the article: How long do puppy blues last and how to overcome? Three months after we married he came down with bronchitis. Its been extremely hard to potty train her, if I dont take her out for 2-3 hours she will shit or pee in my kids room ALWAYS THEIR ROOM it makes me so mad. These are reasons dogs arent allowed on furniture, especially the bed where you lay your head. I wanted the dog and now I dont anymore. Im not a dog person, but the dog is loving and sweet and listens well and I have no problems with this dog. I can sympathize with your situation and its too bad you are going through all this drama over the dogs. The thing is that you have tried all the options and I respect that but clearly there is something very wrong with him and getting a dog sitter everytime you leave the house is giving into a tantrum. This is real, hard, continuous effort and I believe that this is why some people give up on their human relationship and turn their efforts and affections towards animals. UGHHHHHH!!!!! So I can not even let my purse be on the floor! But I was very lonely and infatuated at this point and as he insisted in getting back together I gave in, but the moral struggle lived on inside my mind. And I love animals!!! While her parents dont mind watching her dog, especially since he keeps their dog company, they dont like having him for long periods of time because hes just as needy as their dog. My Australian shepherd is just a puppy and has done some destructive chewing, which he was properly punished for, but he didnt start this habit until I met my boyfriend. If so, necessary actions can be taken just by following your vets advice. My husband just seems to want me to do the same for him but without giving me anything in return, even a little bit of honesty about how he feels about things that matter to me. Lots of hugsxxx. I deserve more than this. Besides, when we got together getting a pet of my own, even in spite of my love for them, was not in my plans because I take pet ownership seriously and thought that this was not something one could do on a whim. Not having dogs is not an answer, so please dont say this. Thank you! So here is the problem: My dog loves animals. I give her a command ( Ive spent hundreds of hours training) and she still resists and gets this look on her face like Ive done the worst thing in the world to her that also goes for asking her to go outside. IMO, dogs are meant to live with families and do better in environments where they are allowed some independence and interaction with more than just one person. Id guess the number is zero. Dogs are animals. If I went next door and saw another woman and she gave me a good meal, I wouldnt suddenly be in love with her and tell my girlfriend its over. How long do puppy blues last and how to overcome? He says Beau always has to be outside. I can certainly feel your pain. Im so glad to hear that. That was a week ago and Im so pleased and relaxed the dog is finally gone but devastated that now Im doing the pregnancy alone, so can totally sympathise with you Hun, sending hugs xxx. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. And he possibly uses his mutt as he is passive aggressive so perfect his mutt can growl and bark and dog owner can quietly enjoy the dominance that he really probably wishes for himself. Shes also not fixed so when she has her menstrual cycle she will bleed spots all over the home. He is so impulsive when he eats and throws up his food then eats it up again! I wanted to develop a close, strong emotional bond with her but I believe her dogs were a distraction to her and hindered the growth of our relationship. Im thinking about giving him away just because I want him to get treated better than this.. Is this wrong to give up my loved dog for her? Its to the point where her awful abused looks are making me want to hit her. One of the reasons we got her was because she was supposedly good with cats. All the lights were off and my dog greeted me as usual, I ran in the room grabbed what I needed and I heard the front door open. Adopting a dog is expensive, and you live on a budget. Such a well behaved dog. If you guys are having troubles over PETS, the relationship is never going to last, anyway. Playing with the kids, running along as they rode their bikes? We both know that we cant afford to replace the things in our home. Live my life wanting to keep him happy? Pet lovers are really just nasty softcore beastiality enthusiasts. Yet its driven him homeless over and over few will rent out their properties to dog owners. He just called me a pig because I ate a sandwich and didnt save any for the dogs. Its pretty clear to us outsiders that the man has a severely dysfunctional relationship with his animals. Things worked ok for a while my wife complained about grass in the house so I invested in artificial grass to solve the problem. All in all its a dog, not a person & even though he has strong feelings for them Im disappointed that he doesnt have stronger feelings about me. When he is around she hardly gets off her bed and when he goes out she jumps up and acts normal and happy. I have a similar problem, my boyfriend, my 2 cats & I have been living together over 5yrs. Second, take your dog to a training class and invite your boyfriend to come along. (He made the comment she would be happier there.) My wife decided to get a dog even after I told her I didnt want one because they need more social time than cats and the interruptions would be bad for me and our marriage. What should I do? I believe he got his dog to look posh. Making peace with your partners pets. If you attempt to put him another room, he will whine and cry until let out. Just as I clean after his 12 year old son who is completely capable of picking up after himself. Or who knows, you may both find the break refreshing and a great opportunity to experience a human love relationship more fully, even to the point of extending the dogs vacation. So i recently started staying at my fiances house as well be married in about a week and i have been very clear about the dog sleeping with us. If you do so, you will see a huge improvement within a week or two. A squishy huge wet spot that I stepped in when I went to wake my daughter up for school. Dogs arent human in the sense that some people anthropomorphise their pets but that nauseating pet lover encourages jealous or possessive behavior that just their dog likes them only because of the way they are intentionally or subliminally raised. By continuing to live there you are becoming part of the problem. The dog is old and likely wont live another year. The dog sticks up everything, no matter how many times you groom him. We picked up Chatty Cathy and she is a young cat that talks way too much and does not listen! However, My boyfriend sets ZERO boundaries for his dog. I agree its not an issue about being rude to an animal its about treating your dog like a dog. How were we supposed to know that our partner was going to laugh at us when their dog farted in our face and then yelled at us when we became depressed about it? Now we are in love and he wants me to dump dogs at a shelter and move away with him. Thank you for listening and understanding. Ive tried my hardest to train her, and even my boyfriend (of 4 years ) has made several concessions. Popular doesnt mean its right. My current girlfriend is pushing for us to live together, she has a parrot and two dogs. I am now sleeping on the couch. If you dont it eats you up. Is it wrong of me after all day being with him and taking care of him to just want the night to myself and my boyfriend without the dog in there smelling up our room? And if we just walk to the kitchen its constant begging. Thank you Pip. When she passed my macho husband was very sad, stayed by her side, and cried quite a bit. You may find that one of you is simply less in love with your pets than the other. They bark to get around the table after being fenced out, then she lets them in because they were barking. I love my Partner, I hate her dog. Period. The man obviously has a very dysfunctional relationship with his dog. I work too long to have to deal with anymore issues or responsibilities. Family too but the dog will stay. My bf and I moved in together after 2 years of dating, (at the time I had a Chihuahua & a Shi-poohe had a Maltese mix). Now I had a rescue of a mom dachsund and 3 pups who someone dropped out of a car and left. Then the animal bared her teeth and chased him away. We have had some potty training issues with him. They cry & come & stare at me. Am I crazy? No sleeping in our bed, no crate, no begging at table, no barking for no reason, and listen to all basic commands. Now for those of you who hate dogs, or animals on general, you wont understand the bone a person can have with an animal. I will take her out to walk for 30 minutes, come inside and she uses the bathroom all over the house. If you put the dog in his kennel to run up to the store even for a few seconds you have to turn the kennel towards the wall and push the couch behind it otherwise he escapes and destroys the house. They were shaking so bad and drooling from immense fear. I was running to emergency vets every 2 weeks. This guy sounds ije a jerk. Because he hates him please help. Sorry if this posted more than once, I had some trouble trying to post it. I feel bad for having these feeling and I feel awkward telling my friends about it because it seems so petty but its not. You cannot compare a dog to a child. we lived together for a month, and her daughters 14 year old cat is obviously traumatized by the daughters constant absence. We love each other very much but this situation is putting a strain on our relationship, he says he doesnt understand as I used to like her at first, I genuinely did but when I realised what it was like to live with her things changed. We met while I was an exchange student in his town. I hurt inside feeling the way I do about this dog, and whenever I try to talk to my boyfriend about how I feel he just says its stupid your jealous of a dog, its just dumb. Is there anyway to get the min pin out of our beds? We have constant fights about it, especially when I try to discuss any sort of training with him. Maybe our guys should get together and have fun talking and babying those ugly little beasts. It just doesnt work, Ive realized. I dont understand why she even has him if she doesnt want to do anything with him. They think that were overreacting because we dont like fur on our clothes. I will say he is really good at caring for her and feeding her.. but also thinks she is toy take out when he see fit and then when she ask up doesnt know when to play and not knowing the difference and then gets yelled at.. out of control I can handle most.. saddens me.. .. For the past 4 months has hasnt said anything anymore thankfully so I hope he is finally getting over it. my girlfriend doesnt like my dog on the bed because she sheds,but she lets her dog sleep on the bed. Which was going well until now he hurt himself awhile ago and was sleeping in our room to watch him but now hes better and he said he loves having him in our room sleeping beside us so hes going to keep it that way. If you hate your spouses animals, you should leave. Hes started getting depressed because the dogs are more important than him, so I dont love him, after 32 years of marriage. 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