WebDear Annie. Her name was going to be Valentine. Dear Jealous: Your wife is still looking at you with the same love in her eyes she always has, and if she knew you now look at her differently because of things she did 20 years ago, she would be heartbroken. [from old catalog] Publisher. Please reload the page and try again. Dear Annie: I am a 23-year-old girl, and my best friend, "Natalie," is my roommate. The latter is more the case with your husband. My sons, their wives and children are all very mad at me for saying and doing a few things they didn't like. Whoops! library_of_congress; americana. Its the best hope for improving the health of your relationship. Claim your rewards from the Reader Perks section. She has been married for 10 years and has two school-age children. Then he told me he had to go to France Read more, Dear Annie: Your advice for "Lost but Still in Love" was perfect. I think she is, because she acts the way all humans should instead of as they do. For some reason, he has Read More, Dear Readers: In a recent column, I was critical of the sudden popularity of using diabetes drugs to Read More, Dear Annie: I am 39 with a wife and three kids. Dear Once Bitten: Tell your family members exactly that. During the three months we were here (we stayed with our other son), we saw our Read more. I was responding to news reports that a growing number of people are using them for casual weight loss to drop a few pounds. Each year for her birthday and Christmas, I try to find something, anything, my daughter might like as a gift. That she holds no bias in her heart makes me wonder: Are the rest of us "normal," or is she? Several years ago, we purchased our first computer, and Alicia began surfing the Net. If a restaurant wants to stay in business, itll do what it can to keep customers happy. Success! Dear Annie: My brother, "Jay," and his wife have an adopted daughter, "Anna," who is now 3 years old. I think I know the cause, which started when she was 2 and the whole world was coping with the pandemic. Dear Annie: I am in contact with this guy who is 52 years old, and I am 58. Dear Annie: I need your advice. To me, that w more, DEAR ABBY: I am an 80-year-old senior man who has met, texted daily and called an 80-year-old woman for the last six weeks. Give directly to The Spokesman-Review's Northwest Passages community forums series -- which helps to offset the costs of several reporter and editor positions at the newspaper -- by using the easy options below. One article stated that restoring blood flow quickly is linked to a lower chance of permanent damage. ", Sixteen months ago, out of the blue, this same guy contacted my wife via email, andRead more, Dear Annie: When I married "Joe" three years ago, I moved into his home with my preteen daughter. They talk about my old boyfriend more than they do my new one, and I dont know how to tell them that Id like them to give my judgment another chance and stop looking into my past. To find out more about Annie Lane and read features by other Creators Syndicate columnists and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. It ended when he moved back to his home state 2,000 miles away. 1. Classic Annie's Mailbox. I am mildly disabled, enough that a stroll back to the restaurant was too much for my bad knees. We came to the States in hopes of spending time with the baby. I recently turned 85 and dont expect to see Christmas, as I Dear Annie: Twenty-five years ago, my husband and I honeymooned in Kenya. 10. 3 minute read. I agreed that the youngest son would stay with us during the week and live at his mother's on the weekends. We were pla more, DEAR ABBY: Regarding "Baffled in Iowa" (Nov. 4), it appears the letter writer's friend may be in danger. My mom has had a great influence on my life for 32 years, but this had to end. She lives in a different state hours away and visits only once a year. Dear Annie: When he is awake, my husband is a mild-mannered person who rarely raises his voice. Do some digging and try to get to the root of your insecurity. When we were first married, we were happy, but his drinking increased and he turned into a miserable, mean drunk. I left their mother because of her anger problems, so that's two strikes againstRead more. 1856. I honestly have no idea how so many women go through this with so little support from Read more, Dear Annie: My biological family wants nothing to do with me or my new wife. I gave birth to our third child the following day. Shortly afterward, my husband called his mother. Earl stood behind me and stated sarcastically (and not quietly), If you want to stay and visit, I could come back later. I asked him last year not to buy tickets, and he didnt, but he just came home with tickets for this years dinner, and I reminded him that I said I would never attend one again. I have been accepted to many colleges out Read more, Dear Annie: I am a 19-year-old heroin addict striving toward recovery. [London] Printed for private circulation [at the Operative Jewish converts' institution] Collection. When I finally said something at the age of 13, my family did not believe or support me. My parents have never had issues that I ever saw. I don't know whether it's because I am older than she is or what, but she always addresses me as "Gramma Mary," as inRead more. Dear Annie: I would like your opinion on something. You're on the list. 99 views. Topics. I read your column, and often there is some form of "I'm hurt that my adult children don't call me or visit me." As soon as I started having chest pains, I went to an emergency room at a local hospital that advertised fast care for heart attack victims. My aunt sent me down to the basement to tell my uncle to come upstairs for dinner. Heres a list of Dear Annies most read columns of 2021, listed from 10 to 1. In a voice that's sympathetic, funny and firm, Lane provides common-sense solutions to life's dilemmas. Dear Annie: Twenty-five years ago, my husband and I honeymooned in Kenya. Naturally, we are extremely close to her. Annie tackles a question about a mom of college-aged daughter who just can't help but buy whatever cool clothes her daughter is wearing. She more, DEAR ABBY: I'm divorced and have been dating my guy friend for five years. Dear Annie: I love your column, though the recent letters about abusive siblings and your responses have me concerned. September 10, 2017. When he escalates any conflict (or at least any conflict in which you stand up for yourself) to Why dont you just move out? he is holding the relationship hostage. DEAR ANNIE: I have written scientific papers on a variety of cancers, including skin melanoma, which takes more lives every year. But the first thing my mother said was, "Did you Read more. Alert to service personnel: What are you going to do when the business where you work folds because customers dont come back? document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); The freshest news in Santa Barbara County. I took full responsibility and was ashamed and disgusted with myself. While I love her dearly and enjoy her visits, sometimes I do not appreciate one topic she brings up. more, DEAR ABBY: During a trip to Las Vegas, I kind of had a one-night stand. I have been married to "Alicia" for 17 years. This one sure didnt. We have been best friends since childhood and have a strong bond. He could walk over and get introduced, but he stands near the exit or gets in the car, glaring at me, and then announces that maybe the neighbor could drive me home if Im not ready yet. Dear Annie: I have a rare child, one who asks nothing for herself and gives generously to others. While there, we both fell in by Creators Syndicate. He keeps trying to get me to talk "naughty" with him, but I always refuse. A few weeks ago, they called him into an office at 4 p.m. and asked him to shut the door and have a seat. At church breakfasts every Sunday, she proudly says the prayer of thanks, and before every sermon, she raises her voice in song. However, the other two are the problem. Email your Dear Annie questions to dearannie@creators.com. We have a Dear Annie: Twenty-five years ago, my husband and I honeymooned in Kenya. Dear Annie: My older sister and I are Read more. Even the ER doctor took a look at me and said he was sure there Read more, Dear Annie: I recently obtained proof of what I had long suspected: My husband of more than 40 years has been seeing prostitutes and having affairs for the past 20 years. I never thought I would be blessed to marry a wonderful man and that it would damage our relationship, but it did. Processing It was during a house party, and upon walking in on them, I quickly removed myself from the situation. She said that she was drunk and that it was a mistake that she regrets and would never do again. Due to her husband's work transfers, Mattie twice was left alone with the children for several months while she tried to sell the house and her husband moved to the new location. 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Youd most likely make your wife feel defensive, and her defensiveness would in turn make you feel less secure about the marriage. Now that I have three young children, my negative feelings toward my father have grown. "Linda" is 45 years old and has been married since around 1993. If you want to print my real name, that works for me, for I am so proud of my generous, loving child. 5. Processing Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearanniecreators.com. 1856. We went to aRead more. At 22, I discovered the fun and sexiness of bras more, DEAR ABBY: My husband is 6 feet, 6 inches tall. Dear Annie: I recently visited a small deli-type restaurant and ordered a takeout square of lasagna. We both look and think young for our ages as well. She smiles sweetly and says nothing or says, "I'm good.". One of them, "Eric," is fairly kind and docile but is only comfortable with surface-level emotions and discussions. Dear Annie: You always give thoughtful advice, and I would appreciate your opinion. Sign Up for the A.M. Report Any insight into getting over this would be appreciated, as I do love her and want to be with her. She a more, DEAR ABBY: After my mother died several years ago, my father's sometimes violent behavior flared up. Callous implies indifference more than it does malice. Apparently, its annoying to him when I share my feelings. Well, thats not good, A tiny breach of trust can cause a huge rift, This column, about a school administration micromanaging parents, originally posted in 2016, but still strikes a chord, This single 70-year-old tried to be a player, but his lies got him into big trouble. One day, he randomly decided he needed a break from our relationship to focus on his business. The opinions expressed are her own. Fast-forward to almost two years later, and I finally am in a happy, healthy relationship, so different from the one before. Read more. Due to a planned power outage on Friday, 1/14, between 8am-1pm PST, some services may be impacted. resonated with all sorts of young women who are totally embarrassed by their mothers. Publication date. This one sure didnt. Once again, she gave her all, helping to bring her uncle back from barely being able to get out of bed to being able to plant in his beloved garden once more. 3.9K views. Several years ago, we purchased our first computer, and Alicia began surfing the Net. Then we got the news that her uncle was very ill. We moved from our home in Florida to Alabama to help him. We have a fairly good marriage. I will not ask him to leave in this condition, yet I am miserably unhappy. I tried to tough it out, believing it would eventually get better, but when Cliff became verbally abusive, I took my two kids and left. We have been best friends since childhood and have a strong bond. Dear Annie: Our daughter, "Mattie," is 42 years old. Dear Annie: My daughter hasn't spoken to me in 20 years. In the last five, I have had so many doctor appointments, medical procedures and surgeries that I have lost count. Dear Annie: Several years ago, I stayed with my aunt and uncle for a week. After arguing for a few days, I asked her to make a sincere effort to go for counseling, and she agreed. As you stated, the man her friend became involved with is "more than a little controlling." When I turned the corner, I caught him pulling up his pants in front of the computer screen. We spent last summer together, and I honestly fell head over heels in love with her. Lost Customer in Wilmington. She lost her school, her friends, a community to walk in without fear and so much more. Get the days top entertainment headlines delivered to your inbox every morning. Each connection throughout the years has been different until this last one where there was an instantaneous spark that truly synchronized us on so many levels, including talks about the near and far future, as well as expressing our Read more, Dear Annie: "Still Sad's" story is almost my story. We will abide by your decision. He may say, Maybe youd like to spend the day with them.. Do best friend to lover romances ever turn out? So dont tell her. We made it to one session before she pronounced our marriage "healed. Lastly, have your boyfriend spend more time with your parents, your sister and you. Although the encounters happened before my time with her, I still feel cheated on and dont look at her the way I once did. Email your Dear Annie questions to dearannie@creators.com. He also says the nastiest, most hurtful things when we argue. The people there took blood every three hours. Thu., Jan. 12, 2017 By Annie Lane Creators Syndicate Dear Annie: I have a friend Ive known for at least 15 years. I have been dating "Brianna" for 10 months. The most read Dear Annie column of 2021 was actually originally run in 2017 and must have resonated with all sorts of young women who are totally embarrassed by their mothers. But never in any of them do I see that they've had an open talk with their kids, human toRead more, Dear Annie: Over the years, I've reconnected with a high school friend who I've known since grammar school. I am a grandmother of four wonderful grandkids and very proud of the fact. What Do I Do? She accepts one and all. I have been putting my hands on her in such a bad way that she's saying we are no longer a family and she wants a divorce. more, DEAR ABBY: I am a first-generation Mexican American who married into a Caucasian blended family. YouTubes privacy policy is available here and YouTubes terms of service is available here. Dear Annie: I've been married for almost 12 years to a man who is emotionally abusive. Read more, Dear Annie: I am 39 years old. Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window), Ask Me Anything: A Year of Advice From Dear Annie, Dear Annie: Sister-in-Law Isnt Much of a Family Member, Dear Annie: Feeling Cramped on Long-Distance Airplane Flight, Dear Annie: How to Use Peer Pressure to Get Your Dog to Exercise, Local Independent Online News (LION) Publishers, Proudly powered by Newspack by Automattic. Money is a Read more, Dear Annie: My wife and I live overseas and have three children, all of whom live in the same city in the United States. Weve been married for 18 years, and we have three glorious children. Like many expectant mothers, Miranda Kekauoha had a plan. My husband, my stepdaughter, "Lisa," and her mother and stepfather make up a beautiful unit. They informed him that they were letting him go. [from old catalog] Publisher. Dear Annie: I am a senior in high school. Now there are five of us in a cramped apartment taking Read more. A month ago, I invited her and her husband for dinner. My other "dad," "Tom," is another matter entirely. 1. He's still alive, but he up and left six months ago and sent me a text saying he's done. I can't imagine that you would encourage a child being bullied toRead more, Dear Annie: I don't have a question for you so much as a comment and suggestion for many of your readers with grown kids who don't visit them. associate-caitlin-markey We live in a city about 80 miles from them. Single File Single File: Self-Supporting. I am writing because my 4-year-old granddaughter does not want to hug me, and I'm not sure what to do about it. Site design and development byHop StudiosHop Studios. I think I know the cause, which started when she was 2 and the whole world was coping with the pandemic. Because your husband seems far from ready to admit this to you or even to himself, its time to enlist the aid of an objective third party. Thank them for their support, and reassure them that you will reach out if there is trouble like that again. Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since we were just out of high school. Our married daughter and her husband resent the fact that we areRead more. Sign Up Now [from old catalog] Publisher. There was a big glass tip jar of cash right next to the credit card screen. Ill surely never return, nor will many of the people I related my experience to. Her debut book, Ask Me Anything: A Year of Advice From Dear Annie, features favorite columns on love, friendship, family and etiquette. My sister, who has received -- and may c more, DEAR ABBY: My 44-year-old son is a long-haul driver. They loathe being asked how tall they are. You might also like our free A.M. Report. Last year I started dating "Luke," age 26. She walks around the house in her underwear. I didn't see it coming. Single File Single File: Self-Supporting. Joe has two older children and a teenage son. After our son's divorce decades ago, he was granted full custody of his infant daughter. Dear Annie: Ive been a successful trumpet player for five years now and in marching band for three. He and my 11-year-old niece, "Jenny," are still estranged from the ex-wife. I wasn't invited to her wedding, so I am not sure. At the time, I asked my wife to go to counseling with me. I sure wish I had my tip money back for that lasagna. Deprive these fiery feelings of oxygen and theyll eventually die out. There are times when they are proud of their height and ot more, DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married more than 30 years. They loathe being asked how tall they are. Right now, I dont have a lot of trust in my local hospital or doctors. She has been married for 10 years and has two school-age children. 99 views. I am writing because my 4-year-old granddaughter does not want to hug me, and I'm not sure what to do about it. Whoops! on May 9, 2013, There are no reviews yet. We usually are very compatible, but once in a while, I feel verbally abused. Columns; Couple too young and toxic to marry. Is this normal treatment? 3.9K views. For 14 years, Marcy and Kathy teamed up to provide answers to "Dear Annie" letters from across the country. All rights reserved, Annie's Mailbox: Get your kidneys checked, Annie's Mailbox: Short, Sassy and Straight, Annie's Mailbox: Missing My Mother but Loving My Husband, Annie's Mailbox: Father Who Can't See His Child, Annie's Mailbox: College Bound and Confused, Annie's Mailbox: Begging for Mummy and Daddy, Annie's Mailbox: Don't Want It To Happen Again, Annie's Mailbox: Terrified for Our Daughter, Annie's Mailbox: Love Struck in California, Annie's Mailbox: Sticky Situation in Florida. I think I know the cause, which started when she was 2 and the whole world was coping with the pandemic. I'm now grown, and my parents are in more, DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for 37 years. Columns; Couple too young and toxic to marry. Her due date was Valentine's Day, and we were so thrilled with love and excitement at the arrival of our baby girl. Together they selected and researched questions and then wrote their advice with a one-of-a-kind modern voice. We went to the same high school, now attend the same college and even studied abroad together. I have said I was very sorry, but nothing will ever change. Advice columnist Annie Lane is a young wife and mother with a gift for helping other people solve problems. For example, his insurance company has an annual dinner, which includes good food and door prizes. They loathe being asked how tall they are. DEAR ANNIE: Recently, you responded to a letter from Sally, who wrote that her husband, in his mid-80s, has become more controlling about money since their move to a senior residence. Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since we were just out of high school. Dear Annie: Our daughter, "Mattie," is 42 years old. We went to the same high school, now attend the same college and even studied abroad together. My So-Called Millienial Life Traveling Through Time to Leave Hauntings in Broad Daylight. [London] Printed for private circulation [at the Operative Jewish converts' institution] Collection. I recently turned 85 and dont expect to see Christmas, as I It would be reckless of me to give specific medical counsel, but here are two broad pieces of advice I can offer: 1) Always get a second opinion. Materialistically, they had everything. I have not brought it up with her, because I know she will get super defensive, and I know she will not go to counseling because of the nature of the topic. Apparently, its annoying to him when I share my feelings. Well, thats not good, 4. Its the second marriage for each of us. For 14 years, Marcy and Kathy teamed up to provide answers to "Dear Annie" letters from across the country. A few years ago, my brother went through a nasty divorce. Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since we were just out of high school. My abuser was my half-brother. Get the days top entertainment headlines delivered to your inbox every morning. There have been a couple of years when we were with people he knew, and I enjoyed joining in the conversations. A month ago, I invited her and her husband for dinner. I think she received a master's degree, but I wasn't invited to her graduation, so I'm not sure of that, either. WebDear Annie. Publication date. When her dad passed away, she and I clung to each other for comfort. 7. Gifts processed in this system are not tax deductible, but are predominately used to help meet the local financial requirements needed to receive national matching-grant funds. Her room was next to his, and mine was at the other end of the house. I have been married to "Alicia" for 17 years. She has been married for 10 years and has two school-age children. I reached out to him on and off for several years without success. Could you give me the names of heart organizations or renowned heart doctors who could look at my case and advise me as to whether I have gotten proper treatment? A native Californian, Annie Lane writes her Dear Annie advice columns from her home outside New York City, where she lives with her husband, two kids and two dogs. For the past 20 years, I have had ongoing therapy to recover from the sexual abuse I suffered as a child. First-Time Heart Patient. Yet she works hard to make other lives easier and happier every day.